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Relationships and Your Brain

Relationships Are Hard, But Why? - Stan Tatkin

Relationships are hard. But what if it’s not you or them or sex, money or even who picks up the socks. What if there is a far more primitive reason?
In this talk, relationship expert Stan Tatkin explores why we fight from the perspective of neuroscience – and how to give your relationship a fighting chance.

Why we pick difficult partners?

Theoretically we are free to select the kind of person we love. We might have chosen someone else. We’re not being forced into this by social convention or match-making aunts or dynastic imperatives. But in reality our choice is probably a lot less free than we imagine.

Fight Smarter: Avoid the Most Common Argument Patterns

No relationship is free of conflict. Listen to my advice on ways to resolve the most common argument patterns and learn how to fight better.

How Negativity Can Kill a Relationship

There’s an elegant symmetry to traditional wedding vows: for better or for worse. But love is not symmetrical, and most of us don’t realize how lopsided it can be. The worse matters far more than the better in marriage or any other relationship. That’s how the brain works…. READ MORE

Sex, Intimacy and Your Body

Dan Savage & Esther Pere - Love, Marriage & Monogamy

Author and sex advice columnist Dan Savage, as well as “Mating In Captivity” author Esther Perel, discuss infidelity, new models for marriage, abstinence-only sex education, and monogamy.

She Comes First: the how-to-guide for Men on Cunnilingus

Ian Kerner offers a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women in She Comes First—an essential guidebook to oral sex from the author of Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either… READ MORE

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy… READ MORE